You Can’t Always Get What You Want…
I am human. I make mistakes, and sometimes I am wrong. I need to allow myself the freedom to be wrong, because if you aren’t wrong once in a while, you aren’t trying.
It’s not like I set impossibly high standards or anything. I like accuracy, and I like to be right (I also like to be correct, there is a difference) but I don’t expect perfection or anything near it from myself.
Why do I seem to need it out of others?
You said What?
I get really irritated when people I know get to talking out of their neck and say something that is just stupid. I’m not sure if I get embarrassed for them, or just irritated that a friend could be so dopey. In either case, I’ll fuss about it. Sometimes, i’ll spend a half a day fussing and thinking about a mistake that a friend has made, or even worse, is about to make…
Yes, you are right. Wasting a half a day fussing about something that is entirely out of my control is incredibly stupid.
How to Manage Wrongness
I’m going to be wrong from time to time. You, my friend, need to take that into account every time you read something that I write. You are going to be wrong from time to time, also. Though probably no where near as often as I. It is the natural order of things.
When I am wrong, I would hope you would tell me, in the same way you would tell me that I have a booger in my moustache when we are out in public. In the way friends tell friends about problems that can be corrected. I will try to provide the same courtesy to you.
The Key to Being Wrong
I have to know that sometimes, you are going to do a thing that I perceive as incorrect. After my initial warning (hey, you have a booger in your moustache…) I need to let it go. I have to grant you the right to be wrong, the same way I have to grant me the right to be wrong.
And in the End
I got a great piece of advice from a close friend last week: “Sometimes I just have to let people be wrong and move on.”
I’m just sayin’